Back in November I was patiently waiting for my January knee operation. Well, not exactly patient. I wanted to get the damn thing over with but the scheduling side of things was out of my control.
Around the second week of November I received a call. A cancellation had occurred. They wanted to know if I’d like to move my January surgery to November 30th.
Yes, I happily answered. Well, not happily. Let’s face it, who enjoys surgery except for the surgeon who relies on it to buy nice cars.
But it was nice to get the thing over with.
The next day I contacted my writer’s group and informed them I’d be out for a while. How long, I explained, was anybody’s guess?
Seeing what I missed
As some of you know December was kind of a haze for me, but by January most of the hospital haze had worn off. With a clear mind I began to realize how much I missed my group.
At the same time I began to understand how important that group was to me.
I realized it wasn’t all about my work and what they thought, in fact most of it had to do with listening and learning.
I never gave this much thought until I returned. The routine was familiar and missed. During my first night back we spent part of our time working with another writer’s story and the other half with mine as I asked for assistance on an annoying plot hole.
In that moment I understood the importance of belonging to a writer’s group.
All about the atmosphere
Many of us work with writers on-line. I do to and it all comes down to geography. Many of my writing friends live half a world away while others live across the country.
How nice it would be if I could see these people every week.
But there is something special when it comes to being in the same room with other writers. The social environment, sharing a laugh or listening to ideas.
Let us not forget the atmosphere. In my case an old bookstore in the old part of town.
There’s nothing like it.
Little things that matter
So many things were brought to my attention that night and I know a lot of it had to do with my long layoff.
The way they listened before giving their opinions. The way they handled feedback and above all the great respect they have for one another.
Most of all it was talent. I am surrounded by some of the smartest people in this craft. Their goal is for their fellow writer to improve. There is no competition in this group.
For those of you already in a writers group you know what I’m talking about. Your group is just as special as mine. But for those without a group I hope you become part of one someday.
Nothing compares to the social climate surrounded by others who push you to succeed. You will gain confidence, you will lose your fear, but most of all you will add a special group of friends to your writing world.
I wish I had a local used book store to hang out at!
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Out here in Eugene, Oregon we have our share.. It’s a bummer you don’t have one.
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There might be one around here, but all the books would be in Korean! 😀 There an English bookstore is Seoul, but it’s too far away and doesn’t have any hangout space inside. That being said, the library on base here is getting an internal coffee shop, so…
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His wonderful to be part of such an inspiring group. You’re right, it’s the connections that matter.
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It sure is. Connections are so important. I’m lucky.
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Me too.
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You’re so lucky to have a great, supportive group, Bryan. And that location couldn’t be better!
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Hi K.M. Yes, it’s a great place to go to. Lots of history behind hit. Now it’s your turn to get into a group.
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Good post! It’s made me interested in looking into joining a local group. I’ve never joined one before. I’d be interested in a poetry group, though. Thank you for the post!
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Hi Paul. So much of it is finding the right fit. Take your time. Go to one or two and see if the setting is right for you. Eventually you’ll find the perfect fit.
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Do make that move you won’t regret the experience as Bryan suggests makes the effort worth pursuing.
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Reblogged this on anita dawes and jaye marie.
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Thank you!!!!!
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Such a good idea if you can find one. I have tried in the past, even tried to start one of our own, but very few people were interested…
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That’s a shame. It’s the best way to meet other writers. You learn so much. Don’t give up. Try starting another one or see if there’s a group out there that is a good fit for you.
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I will keep looking…
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Im so happy that you have a group like this close to you (I’m also a little jealous)
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So much of it is luck. I just happened to fall in to it.
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I’m glad you’re back with your group! I have a writers group, too. They’re a wonderful, smart, diverse, dedicated group of people who have helped me a lot.:-)
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I see we’ve got things in common. 🙂
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I’m working with folks online. I don’t know of anything local, but if I find one, I’d consider joining.
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Yes, do it if you can, Dan. It’s good to get out and meet others.
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Sounds like a great group, Bryan. I used to have a small group of writing friends, and we would meet at a local bookstore. When it closed, the group kind of fell apart. I’m blessed that I have a fabulous online group, but you’re right—there is something wonderful about an in-person relationship.
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My on-line friends are the best. It would be great if we could magically meet once a week. Try to create or find another group if you have time. It’s good to get out and meet others. We do so much on-line it seems.
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I have become a bit of a recluse lately…
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Love that old book store. What an excellent place to meet.
I was part of a writing group many years ago and loved it. The group eventually disbanded, people moved away. These days I work with critique partners online, but I do remember the days of meeting locally. Good for you!
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It does happen. People move on. Nothing lasts forever. If you can find one in your town do it.
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I love this post and the beautiful way you describe the group and your feelings about it. I have been thinking about this topic a lot. Many of my online writing tribe I would love to meet with in person. I am lucky to have found a great writing group locally as well. What I get from each group is dramatically different which is where I am in the “sorting hat” phase of my thinking. Your post makes me think and helps my thinking become a little clearer today – thanks.
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Hi Tammy. Thank you. That means a lot. I’m glad you found a local group to meet your on-line group. When both are a positive it’s the perfect mix, isn’t it.
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I love the location! You are very lucky to have such supportive group too
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Hi Kat!!!
They are a cool bunch. You would love that place. It’s the perfect setting. You would probably set up a coffee bar. 🙂
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Wouldn’t that be something 🙂
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Yes, I’ve been going to my weekly writers’ group for nearly twelve years. I feel energised after most sessions and we are also all good friends.
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Wow, 12 years. That is perfect. I can only imagine the journey you and your group have taken. That in itself is book to be written.
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People have come and gone or gone and come back – I could write a lot about all if us, but they mightt read it! But most of us have been good freinds for years.
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Have fun! There’s nothing quite so fun and good for your writing career as a writers’ group. 🙂
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So true. It’s the perfect atmosphere.
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I’d guess Writing Groups are very similar to any group hobby, shared interests, having fun, finding time for a natter with friends because at the end of the day all human beings are social mammals.
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Social mammals we are. I should get a hat that says that. 🙂
It’s healthy to get out of the house, away from our computer and pretend it’s 1985 all over again.
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This is awesome. I’m moving to a new area this month; I should check to see if they have a writer’s group interested in a new member.
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Thank you. I’m happy you liked it. Yes, check out your area. It is so important if you can find one.
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I joined a group about four years ago best move ever. Within two years had my own book published.
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Chris, that is awesome. Congratulations. I’ll have to check it out.
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I have contemplated joining a writer’s group but still have not committed to it in my mind. I don’t know why I am so afraid.
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Interacting with others in something that is important to you can be intimidating.
I won’t lie, joining my first group was a scary thing. The plus side to all this is once things settle you realize they’re trying to figure things out the same way as you. In other words, we’re all in this together.
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I definitely need to take the leap and do it.
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Being close enough to gather in person on a regular basis is wonderful, Bryan, and a good group as well. There is something about getting a group of writers together in the same room. When we have our writing sister reunions, the creative energies swell. It’s a wonderful–and educational–experience!
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Exactly, Julie. The energy level is something I wish I could bottle.
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A writing group is a magical thing. It’s not all about reading your own work and getting feedback, like you said, a huge part of it is listening, having respect and gleaning titbits from your fellow writers that will inevitably help you grow. Now I miss my group! Still, I’m hoping to get a new one started soon.
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How I wish you and I lived in the same town. Wouldn’t that be awesome.
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As you know, when it comes to crawling out of my shell, I totally freeze, but I feel like I am not going to get where I really want to go if I keep writing in a bubble. I need to get the f..k over myself basically. I know this. Easier said than done, unfortunately. But, how does one begin? How do you find a writers group?
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I would search for local writers in your area. See what you can come up with. Maybe the local University. Do a search of your towns name with local writers and see what happens. If not, try a bookstore and see if they have a weekly meeting with writers.
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